Here are some topics to explore for anyone looking to understand more about picking up girls.
A) Openers: Words that are used to start a conversation or establish a relationship (pick up lines).
Openers are important, if you don’t have helpful openers, you will miss out on opportunities where you might have an interested girl’s number or more. In my opinion, these don’t have to be that complicated.
I have noticed that some people like to get creative with this and spend a lot of time thinking about things that are not always necessary to get a woman’s attention. I think the only important thing is the effectiveness of the starter. So it doesn’t matter if it’s very short or if it’s a long paragraph. What you should focus on is whether it gets you where you want to be.
My personal thought is to keep it as simple as possible by having only a few openers for the most common interactions you have with women. You can gradually change them to material that you have seen that is more effective as you gain experience.
Openers I use:
Game of the day (pick up girls during the day) Openers:
1. “Excuse me. Are you familiar with this area?” (stops) * pause 1 second * “Actually, you’re cute, do you want to have coffee sometime?”
This is designed to make a moving target stop. I like to stop and say this about 2-3 meters in front of them as they walk towards me on the sidewalk. This gives them enough time to respond.
2. “Excuse me, you’re cute. Do you want to have coffee sometime?
This is a direct opener that I use when a target is already stopped. It gets straight to the point and prevents you from wasting too much time if she is going to say no.
Club / bar openers:
1. “How can you look at me like that and say nothing?”
This is a playful opener commonly taught by a well-known artist known as a Cajun. Obviously this one is used right after a woman has just looked at you. It practically breaks the ice and gives you a lead in the conversation.
2. “Excuse me, do you know any good places around here?”
This is a pretty simple and obvious opener. Here you can measure how interested you are in your answer. This is also a good way to find out if you are local or on vacation without asking.
3. “Did you see the fight outside?”
Another no-brainer with a somewhat predictable response. You really don’t need to go into detail when she asks you what happened. Just say: “The cops came, it was crazy.” So you can introduce yourself right after, with, “Hi, this is -John Doe- and you are?”
B) How to deal with rejection:
In this game you will learn as you gain more experience that you will face many rejections. A lot of guys have a little thing that some of us like to call ‘one-itis’. Which means you take a girl too seriously and get emotionally stuck with her.
The key to being successful with women is understanding that she is interested or not. There is no way to “convince a girl to like you”. There are billions of girls in this world with millions of different preferences. Not all girls will find you attractive.
The best way to deal with rejection is to get used to it. It’s just part of the game. Out of 50 girls I ask, I only get about 12 numbers. Then of those 12 numbers; 5 will peel off, 5 will have no chemistry, could kiss 2 and be intimate with 1.
So to make it easier for you, don’t take any of them seriously.
C) The right attitude:
I think you should have a win / win attitude. To explain this better; If a woman is not giving you what you want and you are not benefiting from being around her, move on to one who is.
Many guys think that in order to get a high-quality pretty girl, you need to spend a lot of money and time on her. However, the truth is that you can find a pretty girl who is high quality and genuinely interested in you if you just check them out “the right way.”
-The right direction-
To cut it down, you should only see the women who show the most interest. If you choose to see girls that require more work or maintenance to keep them happy and expect you to chase them like a puppy, then you are heading down a path full of disappointment. Those qualities should be seen as red flags.
Another thing regarding attitude is not expecting every girl to want to be in a long-term relationship. Women are very emotional creatures and while one day one might say they want to be with you forever, the next day they might decide to leave you to chance.
I found it wise to keep the options open. It may be a good idea to let a girl know that you’re not looking for anything too serious. So I would say this every time the subject of “what kind of relationship do you have” is brought up. This will avoid the drama of the soap opera. You never know when you will realize that perhaps this girl is not one you want to be deeply committed to.
So now you have some ‘Openers’, tips for handling ‘Rejection’ and the right kind of ‘Attitude’. I hope this article has been helpful. Thanks for taking the time to read this and good luck.
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