Once upon a time, a long, long time ago in the 90’s, we had a dream. It started at the top of our cheeks with an ice-straight blowout and then we worked our way up to the D&G dress, Gucci bag, and fabulous jewelry that we couldn’t afford, but supported by our benefactor Visa.
Regardless of the cost, we wanted one thing: to be glamorous. Even if we worked at the local mall catering to tight whites in Hanes, we wanted to look like a movie star. A funny thing happened after the collapse of the economy. My clients are saying words that could have sent you prison style a few years ago.
“Tamara”, they bow and trust. “I want to look good, but I don’t want to be too glamorous.”
This is an interesting phenomenon because while women want to be pretty, or even very pretty, they don’t want to be too pretty.
This leads me to ask you: when it comes to looks and style, what do you want? Do you want to be pretty or glamorous? A whirlwind of heads or a heartbreaker? Or do you keep humming that U2 song when it comes to style – “Haven’t found what I’m looking for yet?”
I think I can give you a bit of resolution on this issue, even if your own style has changed since you turned five. You want to be pretty, but more importantly, you really need to take a step towards who you are as a woman. Then the rest will fall into place.
Style is not an exercise in looking like Demi, Michelle or any number of these Jennifers or Jessicas floating around. Style is about finding the best shapes for you along with the best colors, the best hairstyle, the best clothes, the best shoes … the best of everything for you. It’s not about what Reese is doing. Again, it’s about how you are as a woman.
Just a little side note: you might get a little glam on the road when you discover this. Sorry, it’s the aftermath of finally finding your unique style. Glamor is that bag of makeup samples that they offer you with the big purchase. You could reject it, but why would you?
When you finally discover the true you, how to put it all together and polish what you have … you can’t stop it. The glamorous, beautiful and sparkling version of YOU will be on display for all to see.
You will become that woman.
You know that women.
She’s the one who shows up at the PTA meeting in black pants, a simple white shirt, a great layered haircut, and she looks absolutely stunning.
Everything you’ve done seems correct. His skin glows; her eyes sparkle and that damn hair is swinging in the right direction even when she’s sitting by the air conditioning vent. He’s not worried about buying 10 pairs of black pants (because they all fit him differently). One really is enough.
She is confident in her body. Even if it is not perfect.
This blog is dedicated to finding your best self. It is not about vanity because there is a big difference between vanity and beauty. Vanity is standing in front of a mirror and getting lost so much that you can’t get out for air. The kind of beauty we’ll find here is the kind where you say, “This is what I have to work with in life. I’ll do my best with it. I’ll own it.”
Check out Jackie O. She was never the prettiest, but with those signature sunglasses, classic cardigans, skinny Capri pants, and that perfect dark bob, she was ravishing and classic.
Look at Michelle Obama, who looks so different since she moved to Pennsylvania Avenue. During the campaign, she was beautiful, but now she has a new rock-solid confidence and has become beautiful. What could be different other than that you sent address change cards?
Answer: She owns her beauty. He wears J. Crew clothes and looks like he just stepped off a runway.
She is not a perfect beauty, but most of us would be happy to feel so good about ourselves. By the way, now I find it quite glamorous. It’s just part of the deal.