How to improve your sex life: make it hotter and healthier than ever!

With all the things we have in our lives these days (kids, school, work, family, friends, economic turmoil, ad infinitum), it’s easy to forget about making time to improve our sex lives to make them as healthy as they can reasonably be. .

However, good sex shouldn’t be an occasional thing. We should have amazing sex every night (or morning!) We feel like it. Having the kind of sex life you want shouldn’t be difficult, and in this article I’m going to detail some great and easy ways for you and your partner to reconnect sexually and put that spark back in your sex life.

1. Communicate

It has been said that the cornerstone of any successful relationship is communication. Personally, I wouldn’t know, since the most successful parts of my relationships always happen in the bedroom (or occasionally at the kitchen table). What I DO know is that if you want to have a good sex life, you have to sit back and push yourself.

Talk to your spouse about what they like and what they don’t like about your current sex life. Each of you should discuss not only the quality but also the frequency of it, and how this meets your expectations. What would you like to do more or less of? What were your favorite memories, sexually speaking, and do you know why? Are either of you failing to get regular sexual satisfaction?

It is also a good idea to objectively discuss some of your sexual experiences while the experience is still fresh in your mind. Depending on your relationship and how touchy each of you are on the subject, sometimes it’s best to leave it until the next day, but try to take some mental notes. One of the best long-term sex I’ve ever had involved regular communication immediately after the act – pillow talk, so to speak. However, not everyone can be so nonchalant when their partner tells them that they didn’t like the way their language worked, so if you don’t take criticism easily, maybe a different environment is better for you.

2. make time for it

Having great sex is like anything else worthwhile – it takes time. Not just because of the act itself, but because of the romance, foreplay, and the general build-up of sexual tension that occurs before the main event. If you only have sex after both of you have been at work all day and you are both tired, you can only expect a mediocre result. Try to clear one night a week or fortnight where you plan on doing absolutely nothing except spending time together. Bathe together, give each other a massage, do whatever you want, and mentally tune in a little more with each other. As the old saying goes, if you don’t plan, you plan to fail.

3. Accept your sexuality

Nothing gets in the way of a good sex life more than one (or both) parties feel that sex is somehow “wrong” or “dirty.” I’ll spare you my spiel about the problems in our society that cause this to be the case. too often, and instead he will just quote the great Bobby McFerrin and say “Don’t worry, be happy!”

There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex, and doing so does not make you morally or ethically unstable, dirty, a bad person, or any other crazy thing that might be getting into your head.

We are meant to enjoy sex. Accept it as a liberating and rewarding experience and I guarantee that your sex life will improve tremendously.

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